Monday, June 23, 2008

Silent punishment

Last nite, I'm so pissed off with kakak. Its started when I asked her to help me to kemas all her stuff in the living room. Mmg bersepah...all those magazines n her bags its hang around the corner. Then kakak replied balik...saying that..."kita kemas samer2...dua org kemas"...Ok. I'm ok with that. Then...a few minutes...she said that...she will sapu n ibu pulak kemas.
Manyak songeh pulak anak dara sorang nie...so aku malas nak ckp bnyk...so aku said...OK. Lagipun bukan susah sgt nak kemas barang dia yg bersepah kt ruang tamu...tp I wants her to be responsible with her own things. She already big girl now....Tapi ada one day..rasanya petang Sabtu...when I asked her to kemas depan..she did very well...siap sapu lagik...I'm so happy...but not yesterday..sub...sub..sub.

After a few minutes, aku tgk sapu pun x gerak2 lagik...so again I reminding her...her work have'nt done yet....She gives another excuse..she wants to watch the TV...after citer abis..she will sapu...fine...ok...at this time I can tolerate lagik...But after few hours, seems that she forgotten what she had speak to me earlier on...then I reminding her again...another excuse came on me. Yesterday evening was raining at my area...so she was afraid of lightning and thunder storm ...then she said when Ilham came back fm kedai gunting rambut she will kemas. I told her...its ok...I'm here..sitting at sofa...then I asked her to sapu...as expected...she said..she wanted to wait for Ilham. I think...at this time...my temperature just want to blooted...at anytime ajer...but I still can sabar lagik.

After magrib..I found that..Ilham tgh sapu kt living room. Masa nie...mmg aku hot bangat. I need to speak to her. I told her directly that she was cheating on me. I don't want to trust her anymore if she behave like this. Titik.

Then masa we were having a dinner..she told Ilham that Ibu x mo percaya kat kakak. Ilham doesn't know what its all about...so he told me apa yg kakak citer kat dia. I'm just kept quiet. Mmg masa tu...I rasa a bit upset coz kakak tak mo came to me seek for the apologise...not like before...everytime after she did any wrong...she will said sorry...but now..she oso kept quiet. I told Ilham what is going on ...then I told kakak oso...if u don't want to help me...plis nex time don't give any excuses.. So bermulalah...silent treatment for me towards kakak. Ilham become moderators between me n kakak. He asked kakak to say sorry to me...but kakak refuse to do so.

This morning...Ilham reireterate to kakak..pls ask forgiveness to Ibu...tp kakak cam malu2..or may be she afraid that I'll scold her back. If yesterday...Yes..I mmg marah...but this morning...cam x ada mood nak cakap pasal menda nie lagik. Then masa aku sibuk2 nak gi keja...kakak came to me siap nangish2..."Ibu...kakak mintak maaf"...Entahlah...dunno what to describe my emotions...I just said Ok...tp dlm hati aku SEDIH.

4 comments:

Mr. and Mrs. Mokhsin said...

tu lah anak2 nie...masa kecik susah style budak kecik..bila dah besar..lain plak style nyer...kalau ko nak tahu, aku garang ko,kalau aku suh anak2 aku kemas..aku memang bagi order jam jeneral,hehehe...pastu aku akan berdiri sambil tgk diaorang kemas,betul ker cara aku tu ha? tu kalau aku dah cakap elok2 n byk2 kali laa....ko sabar ek....aku sokmo doa lepas semayang supaya aku jadi org byk bersabar..sebab aku ni jenis bad temper...

Nur a.k.a admansyah said...

takde salahnya `menghukum' anak sendiri... as long as hang jgn `cepat tgn' dah! aku report kat polisi, tau!!! he..he... jgn maree yea!

Mesti GARANG sikit Nurul. Bkn utk menakutkan dieorg tapi utk membimbimg & mendidik agar menjadi anak yg berdisiplin, dgr kata serta patuh pd ibubapa!

Dun wori... u did d right thing, dear!

Nurul a.k.a Riko said...

janna..
betul tu..makin derang beso..makin lain pulak pesen derang nie...mmg menduga betul.

he.he..he..garangnyer nko..cam ala2 komander tentera jer. Ya ampun.

Tp mmg elok kalo kita garang..tp tu lah...aku kalo buat garang..anak aku kata aku bulih berlakon jadik watak ibu tiri.

nur..
aku mmg jarang pukul anak aku..selalu jer kata nak rotan..sambil tunjuk hanger...tp kalo nak pukul...aku pukul kat kaki jer.

lega sikit baca komen nko...tp makin besar anak kita..makin besar cabaran kan...tu belum derang sek. menengah...adooiiiii...

mrs salman said...

Salam

Dear akak..

Just found your blog. Enjoyed reading your life with you two very pretty young girls despite quite difficult to understand the words. Hehe.

Saya ada 8 adik beradik. Now the tantrum they will give when they were moody.

As for the stages in tarbiyah (didik) anak-anak, ada beberapa level yang Nabi saw ajar.

Masa 1-6 tahun. Bermain.
7-15. Mendisiplinkan
16-18: Berkawan

Being condiserable and tolerate is indeed a good thing not necassary a right thing. What we have to do, is diciple them in wisdom and right way.

Kalau dah tiga kali suruh tetapi masih bagi excuses maknanya dah offlimit dan perlu dikenakan hukuman atau teguran tegas otherwise budak-budak akan ambil kesempatan atau tidak faham dan ambil mudah suruhan kita.

I know it's never easy to discipline our kids.